I can at any given moment go on any of my social networks and see folks speaking about love. Some speak of the sexual variety some the spirit, some the fantasy but it’s always LOVE, LOVE, LOVE!! On a twenty-four hour loop. But is what they speak of and desire really love they are seeking or just attention?

Recently, I was speaking with a few friends on the subject which seems to be somewhat an obsession with our group. Many in the group have someone they are dating but most of them aren’t happy, why? Because the people they are with either aren’t cooperating in the way they desire or who they are with aren’t the committing types or other reasons too long for this blog. Bottom line: I am the truly single one in this mix. Ironically, these people are always advising me on what I should or shouldn’t do yet I don’t see much happiness in what they are doing. Now there is not a thing wrong with getting advice but I guess sometimes I am leery about the deal because though they may have someone in some respects many of them have nothing. Me, I’d rather not play that kind of mind f**k with myself. 

In either case, I said that there was not many good candidates in the dating pool. That many who think they are good, really aren’t good. That there are many takers and not many who balance the take and give. So my friend said, “who here are givers?” So just about everyone in the room said yes except one. She was the most honest person in there besides me in my assessment. Why? Because she gave a valid argument to this thing called romance. So my friend went on to say that the givers are just not finding other givers due to impatience, loneliness, and maybe poor judgment. I would like to buy into what she said but somehow I think that a society is what it is. Folks are always telling me that you get what you reflect but what if the society’s reflection is poor? If true then, how does one who is truly ready, developed, balanced, no baggage, and great, find someone? (You have to be great if you are all those things and I am…*serious face*) Hey, please give me the answer because I have yet to find it. Even the folks who I consider to be good are not getting it so it can’t be that we all don’t have a clue or somehow are so flawed. Nope, I have to go with the societal reflection theory. I just made that up…lol But it makes sense if you truly think about it. 

But on the real there is nothing wrong with Love because we should know the most important love is of self! That is the greatest love of all as Whitney and George sang so beautifully about. 

But is it really romantic love we desire? Why is romance so damn appealing? 

Especially when you take into effect that in #2012 all the songs are about getting high and fugging. I mean you would think folks don’t want such. Don’t get me wrong as a musician I guess I have worked with some artists who have made some of these very songs (ok, I’ve made them too *humble face*)so I don’t want to come off as a hypocrite but as it is said, the audience determines the products that are out there. 

So if romantic love is truly something folks want ,why is it that no one is finding it if everyone wants & needs it? 

“Romance is dead – it was acquired in a hostile takeover by Hallmark and Disney, homogenized, and sold off piece by piece.” – Lisa Simpson

“Even an objective reference source such as the dictionary says romance, is a fictitious tale, an exaggeration, a falsehood, fanciful or imaginative, not practical, without a basis in fact, and so on. “—Howard Cutler M.D.

When I think of the meaning of romance I’m starting to think it’s a bit unrealistic. 

Now do I believe love can exist? Absolutely, we are spiritual and light laden beings so love is something we can experience and do in just about everything we are involved in. But romantic love??? I don’t know? Call me a cynic but it’s looking more and more like a novel that after a couple days of reading you put down and are off to the next.  

DBXXL- THE HARDEST WORKING MUSIC PRODUCER AND ALL AROUND ENTREPRENEUR IN THE GAME!

FUTURE SHIIII!!!!!!!!!!

HERE ARE SOME COMMENTS ON MY TIMELINE:

“No valentine…….maybe I should take out my mother this year.”

““In real love you want the other person’s good. In romantic love, you want the other person.”——Margaret Chase Smith

“I been goin thru sum thangs real live boosie shit.”

“there’s a sucker born every minute…..but a swallower is hard to find…..ll”

“people have hidden motives and agenda’s.”

“if you become more then a friend, but less then a girlfriend~ that is a trial period, and you can’t get mad over anything.”

“If ppl love REALNESS so much, why don’t they do it too? Example~ telling the truth, straight forward, open, down to earth, humble, honest, loyal, trustworty, loving to all, respectful, peaceful etc!! If you love these things of realness, why not do it? Sorry I’m just confused a lil ~ thinking out loud”

“Laying in bed next to something nice Gn fb Muah!!!”

“Someone said to me “you’re too pretty to be single” I said “no, I’m too pretty to be lied to, cheated on, and played with.”

“Sitting here listening to this woman nag her boyfriend, and he aint payin her azz no mind..IF I WAS A GUY I WOULD KILL MYSELF BEFORE I LAID BESIDE A NAGGIN AZZ FEMALE EVERY NIGHT..THAT IS THE MOST ANNOYIN SHIII IN THE WORLD! IF THE SITUATION BOTHERS U THAT MUCH AND U AINT TRYNNA DO SHIII TO CHANGE IT OTHER THAN NAG, JUST SHUT THE F**K UP! SMDH”

“I hate seeing people go back to the same person who hurt them a million times.”

“A simple “bye” can make us cry, a simple “joke” can make us laugh and a simple “care” can make us fall in love.”

“Everyone deserves someone to make you look forward to tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, & the rest of your life.”

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